Homa Psychotherapy: Training the Mind

Training the Mind to react with Love and
make proper Decisions

By Barry Rathner, Clinical Psychologist

To all Addicts: yes, that means you.

Unless you are not human—and I have my suspicions about a few politicians—this article is addressed to you.

Shree Vasant famously said that all humans are addicts. The brilliant intuitive healer, Carolyn Myss, says the same thing.

So perhaps we can consider starting a new 12-Step Program, LIFE ANONYMOUS.

In AA, alcoholism is labeled a disease—not a deficiency of self-discipline, not laziness, not moral turpitude—but a disease.

“A disorder of structure or function“ is one definition of disease. I think we can relate.

The good news about having a disease as opposed to a lapse of morals, for example, is that self-blame is less likely to enter the picture.

“I was born with this.” “It was passed on to me from my father.” “I am the fourth generation to be similarly affected.”

The explanations/excuses may be endless.

But still, since mental illness in general and addictions in particular are rife with misunderstanding and ‘bad press,’ it may be helpful to alleviate some of the stress from the beginning.

More to the point, what to do about this disease of addiction? First what is it?

“Addiction is a complex condition, a brain disease that is manifested by compulsive substance use despite harmful consequence.”

“I use no ‘substances,’” you say. Well, your pleasure centre is very interested in such ‘substances’ as dopamine and serotonin, and oxytocin, not to mention endorphins. If you engage IN EXCESS in activities—including thoughts—that increase the secretion of these pleasure things, then, guess what, YOU ARE AN ADDICT. And, besides, there is always that Pizza thing you have.

MINCING words over whether a particular action of mine is a habit or a propensity or an addiction perhaps may indicate you have an addiction to mincing words, at the very least.

But here is the bottom line. DO I OR DO I NOT WANT TO BE HAPPIER, HEALTHIER AND HOLIER—not holier than thou, just holier.?

If you have answered, ‘yes,’ to 2 out of 3, at least, you are in the right place (or at least reading the right article).

It may be helpful to ask, “Why do I wish to be happier and the other stuff?”

If my answer is so that I may be a better servant of the Divine, then I am ‘cooking with gas,’ and am on the right path.

As St. Francis of Assisi said, “Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love.”

I searched but could not find a prayer that asked for increased serotonin production.

So, anger, lust, greed, jealousy, pride and attachment—six ‘crocodiles’ often snapping at our minds trying to bring us down into the less holier, less service-oriented areas of life need to be addressed.

If not, instead of WE training our minds, our minds pull us in this or that direction and we are at the mercy of our old mind impressions, at the mercy of the age of disinformation we live in, at the mercy of the public relations establishment.

Is it not preferable to be at God’s mercy?

And under the banner of ‘Timing is everything," consider the following:

“It is a phenomenal time to be alive, even with all difficulties and constant changes. It is a time unlike no other to be able to evolve far quicker than any other time. It is not a time to relax one’s disciplines, but instead, strengthen your adherence to the disciplines which you follow”.
Shree Vasant
(vía Parvati Rosen-Bizberg)

“The only path wide enough for us all is love”.
Kamand Kojouri

“Whatever the question, love is the answer”.
Dalai Lama

Photo above: 1) best not to lose your head over things  
2) if you don’t train your mind, it will train you —
not usually for the best

For more information:
www.homapsychotherapy.com
and
www.drbarryrathner.com
 

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